It was 10 PM and I was already mentally checked out for the day when my phone rang. Dad's name on the screen, and honestly, my first thought was "Ano na naman to?"
I love my dad, pero yung timing naman kasi, 4am ako gumigising for work so mabilis na akong mapikon pag mga 10PM na. Wala na akong energy makipag-usap. And late-night calls usually mean may kailangan siya na I need to figure out right now (like pag hindi niya mapagana yung YouTube Music sa phone niya).
"Anak, pwede mo ba ako tulungan bumili sa online?"
I'm already doing mental calculations - is this an emergency? Medical? Something that actually matters?
"Ano yun, Dad?"
"Baby reborn doll."
I had to pause. "Sorry, ano po?"
He explains na he saw this super realistic baby doll sa SM Megamall, yung mga ginagamit for therapy or collectors. Apparently he wants to prank his barkada with it - imagine a 70-something-year-old man carrying around what looks like a real baby just para ma-confuse yung mga friends niya.
My immediate reaction: "Dad, bakit baby doll? Parang... ano ba yan??... para san ba?"
“Sige na anak, alam mo naman gusto ko lang magpatawa ng mga tao”
But here's where it got annoying. He insisted na yung seller sa booth told him pwede raw makakuha ng quality version for just a few hundred pesos. "Sabi niya may mura daw pero maganda pa rin."
So I opened Shopee. Nag-scroll from cheapest to most expensive. The cheap ones looked like horror movie props - creepy, obviously fake, yung tipong mas nakakatakot than cute. The realistic ones? Five to ten thousand pesos. Easy.
"Dad, yung mura mukhang possessed naman. Yung maganda nasa 2k isa. Sure ka bang gusto mo talaga?"
"Pero sabi niya may maganda na mura eh. Pwede mo ba i-check ulit?"
I checked again. Same results. Tried different keywords, different shops. Nothing.
"Dad, wala talaga. Either cheap and pangit, or expensive and maganda."
"Pwede mo ba i-message yung seller? Baka pwedeng tawaran?"
This is where I started getting really frustrated. "Dad, hindi ganyan ang Shopee. Hindi yan palengke na pwedeng tumawad."
"O sige, tanong mo na lang dun sa mura kung may version ba sila na mas maganda."
I'm looking at my screen thinking, this is ridiculous. I'm tired, I want to sleep, and I'm arguing about baby dolls with my 70-year-old father who wants to prank his friends. The practical part of my brain is screaming "waste of money, waste of time, just say no."
"Dad… NA TRY KO NA NGA. Wala talaga. Hindi pwede."
I was about to end the call there. Cut it short, tell him it's impossible, go to sleep frustrated but at least honest about the reality of online shopping.
But then something clicked.
Like literally, sa split second na yun, this thought hit me: this might be my last conversation with my dad.
Not because he's sick or anything dramatic like that. But because he's old. Really old. My parents had me when they were in their mid-40s, so he's in his 70s now, and this thing I've been avoiding thinking about just crashed into that moment.
For years, I've been carrying this weight at the back of my mind about my parents aging. It's probably the thing that stresses me out the most, but I don't know how to process it. I've talked about it in therapy, tried to make peace with it, pero I still don't know how to orient my life around the reality that time is... limited.
And suddenly I'm on the phone getting annoyed about a baby doll, when maybe I should just be grateful he's calling me. That he still gets excited about silly things. That he thinks of me when he needs help.
My tone completely changed.
"Okay Dad, alam mo kay kilala pala ako taga Shopee papatulong ako. I'll message all the sellers, I'll ask around, and I'll find you the best baby reborn doll. Don't worry about it."
"Talaga anak? Salamat ha!"
I could hear the excitement in his voice, and it hit me - this isn't really about the doll. It's about being the person he calls when he wants something. It's about having something to look forward to together.
So I actually did it. I messaged Shopee sellers asking if they could negotiate (spoiler: they don't). I asked the cheap ones if they had better quality versions. I researched baby reborn dolls like I was writing a thesis.
The thing is, I don't even know if he'll still want it tomorrow. I don't know if this is just one of his random late-night ideas that he'll forget about. But that doesn't matter anymore.
What matters is that instead of ending that call frustrated and making him feel bad for asking, I chose to be excited with him. I chose to say yes to something that doesn't make logical sense because sometimes that's what caring for someone looks like.
So for the next few days, I actually did it. I messaged Shopee sellers asking if they could negotiate. I asked the cheap ones if they had better quality versions. Obviously, walang nangyari. They either left me on read or politely said "fixed price po."
But he kept asking for updates. "May balita na ba sa baby doll?" And each time, I could hear the excitement in his voice.
Three days later, I found myself staring at a ₱2,700 baby reborn doll in my Shopee cart. I applied every coupon I could find - free shipping, first-time buyer discount, flash sale voucher. Brought it down to ₱2,550. Still expensive for a prank prop, but whatever.
I hit "Check Out."
"Nakakainis ka naman, Dad," I whispered to myself, smiling as I confirmed the payment.
Then I immediately typed: "Dad, nabigyan ako ng coupon ng friend ko taga Shopee! Nakuha ko ng mura na lang. Kain tayo ng Max's para mabigay ko sa'yo."
Sent.
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Sometimes the most loving thing you can do is say yes to something that doesn't make sense.
Because it's not really about the thing - it's about the person asking.